This article on Head and Heart is the third in a nine-part series. You can visit our blog for the previous articles in the Life Mastery Series.
When your head and heart are in harmony, you are at peace and feel an inner balance. Conflicting emotions, excessive brooding, procrastination or scattered, unfocused action do not exist in the balance of head and heart.
Your Head and Heart
People have two basic natures—head and heart or they can be called the intellect and feelings. When we are in balance, our intellect and feelings make beautiful music in our lives.
Our days tend to go better. When challenges arise, we know how to deal with them. We feel good with ourselves and have a sense of what is happening in life and what we are doing.
But when one of these natures is larger than the other, we experience a bumpy ride. Confusion or negativity can show up more often and cause troubles. We can be thrown off by the difficulties in life and may not feel so good about ourselves, the people in our lives or where we are heading.
When you live your life in balance you have a rhythm of “feel, think and act”, “feel, think and act”, etc. This means you have a feeling, you understand it and can take action accordingly.
These steps can happen continually. For instance, you may have a feeling you are tired and need a good nights rest for tomorrow. You think about what you want to finish off tonight. When it’s time, you move into action to wrap things up and go to bed.
The key is to live life from what you feel within. Your feelings are the source of your “right-on” hunches, your wisdom and your connection with your inner guidance or angels.
In today’s more developed societies, many people are overly influenced by all the outer information. They may live their lives starting with their intellectual nature instead of their true feelings.
In many situations, it’s better to go along with the outer world, from doing our taxes to following what upper management wants at work. But, it’s still best to come from our feeling nature to stay connected within ourselves and our resources.
When you are relaxed and in-balance, you tend to notice your feelings vs. the outer thoughts. From this inner pivot, you can organize what to do, when and where to do it and take the action needed.
It’s a continual three-step process of “feel, think and act” “feel, think and act”, etc. that keeps life flowing smoothly and successfully. You’ll tend to be doing what’s best and in the timing that works for you.
When you live from your feeling nature, you have a clearer sense of the Real You or Soul Being and your purpose. From your feelings, you can then use your intellectual nature to organize and direct how you want to express yourself or take action.
Is Your Head Overpowering Your Heart?
Some people don’t understand emotions and the difference between emotions and feelings. Emotions are often learned from our early and current environments. When our head and heart are in harmony, we experience fewer emotions, such as nervousness, over-excitement, guilt, indecision or doubt.
Emotions are false feelings that can have some true feelings in them, but became twisted out of shape.
In many urban and Western societies, the outer based intellectual nature can be in charge. This shows up with intellectual thoughts and concepts that are not based on true feeling. Examples of these thoughts could be “You married me, so you need to make me happy.”
To paraphase author Bob Samples in summarizing Albert Einstein: “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”
If we let the intellect override our feeling nature, roadblocks show up. Our thoughts create our reality, and sometimes these thoughts run through our minds without our conscious awareness and evaluation. To quote Swiss psychoanalyst Carl Jung: “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
Is Your Heart Bigger Than Your Head?
Some people are more feeling than thinking. They can be expressive and caring individuals who do much for others. They may however, not take enough time to think and organize what is best to do with their feelings. They could be jumping into action too quickly and without understanding of what’s best.
Can you think of a time when you voiced a thought or sent an email without thinking about it, first? Later, you wanted to kick yourself. You were involved in “feel-act” instead of a “feel-think-act.”
Individuals with more feeling than intellect may say: “I can help others but I do not seem to be able to do for myself”. They can even feel taken advantage of by others because they have not taken the time for clear understanding.
The solution for the out-of-balance feeling person is to relax, understand their feelings and get the facts (the what, when, where and why). They need to be clear on how to direct their energy. This way, they can help themselves and others more.
You Head and Heart In Sync
Let’s move into the natural rhythm of head and heart in harmony. Then, situations often fall into place. You’ll feel at peace with your decisions and direction in life.
Sometimes, coming back to that balance is as simple as taking a few big breaths. Inner sincerity also creates balance as does patience as we return “home” to our true nature, our feelings.
When I understand my clear feelings, I sense my good, kind inner being. I am connected within myself and with others. I am hopeful, inspired, and at peace. I feel love from within and it shines out. I am living my dreams and desires and ride the bumps with resilience and calm. I am at home in the Universe.
Making This Practical
How can you apply this article in your life? How can you enjoy more balance? If you want to try out this balanced approach and get more of a feeling for this, you are welcome to do so. For starters, you can practice this Feel – Think – Act in your life.
Just relax and say to yourself Feel – Think – Act, Feel – Think – Act, Feel – Think – Act, etc. for a minute, or two. It may help if you are relaxed and close your eyes. See if you have any feeling for what these three steps mean in your life. Once you get a feeling you can organize a way to use it and take action. It’s as simple as that!
You can find out more about your two natures. You can live more of an inner connected and naturally flowing life that works well for you and those around you.
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